Why do almost all parents always think what is the best things for their child?
Why the parents were very rare to discussed what do the child wants and find a better solution with their child as a partner?
I always remember what Shrek told Donkey about having a baby.
Donkey: don't worry, a baby will not ruins your life
Shrek: You don't understand, it is Me that I'm worried to ruin my baby's life
I think it's about open minded anyway